Met a girl while visiting my previous church

[farouk]

4 hours ago, LoveJoyHope-lady said:

Oh, how wonderful! ☺️

I understand I your reticence to attend/visit a church "just for" the opposite sex. I used to have a "purist" feeling about that, too. But, now, part of me theoretically wants to relax a tad bit and not be obsessive either way. I'm sure we can with good conscience attend for several reasons; however, we always need to check our conscience to see if we are doing right.

Alas, I'm still single in middle age! Argh... sigh. I have considered going to churches (or towns or workplaces) where the "kinds of guys" who I think I'd have an interest in are congregating. I have started to consider those places more concertedly. e.g., moving to Nashville, TN to meet intelligent guys in the Christian media sphere. I haven't done this yet, and if I did, I think the thrust would be because I want to be in that environment, but those "types" of guys would be there, too. Hmm, but I have a lot to pray about, and it must God's will.

If a specific person were in question, as in your case, I don't think it'd be a great sin to go once or twice to said church, but absolutely find true interests in something else so you can honestly have other reasons for being there. 

Anyway, I think we Christian singles can become awfully tangled up in our heads. We have souls/feelings, but are not to be too soulish; God gives us natural drives (dating, marriage), but we must act righteously, of course. Pastor Robert Jeffress says that nothing we do is of completely "pure" motives, but I think he just means that we can't 100% disconnect a thing from our human nature - however, I think we should absolutely strive to be pure - perhaps like coralling our nature? - but I think it's not a sin to want to see your Polish friend - as long as you don't obsess. (I've been trying to sort through such things myself, and I pray that God forgives me for any I imperfect advice here.) So, pray, pray, pray! Have an accountability partner, like a guy friend or pastor, who you can discuss it with, too.

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It sounds like you have a natural opportunity with the WhatsApp group - praise God!

Please keep us posted!!! 💕

 

18 minutes ago, SIC said:

Thanks for sharing @LoveJoyHope-lady

I'm praying , trusting and waiting for Him to lead. Let us see what He does... 

 

Another point, maybe: good idea for @SIC to figure carefully how the friend relates to her home church in Poland, if she has one...........

[LoveJoyHope-lady]

I think @SIC is doing this well, just waiting on God and taking it all a day at a time.

We Christians are so quick to say: oh, look, a person - marriage???? 😍🤣

[SIC]

I think these are the verses for my dating situation:

 

John 21

3 Simon Peter said to them, “I am going fishing.” They said to him, “We will go with you.” They went out and got into the boat, but that night they caught nothing.

4 Just as day was breaking, Jesus stood on the shore; yet the disciples did not know that it was Jesus. 

5 Jesus said to them, “Children, do you have any fish?” They answered him, “No.” 

6 He said to them, “Cast the net on the right side of the boat, and you will find some.” So they cast it, and now they were not able to haul it in, because of the quantity of fish.

 

I have tried dating apps and so on. Those never lead me anywhere. I am going to wait and see what God does with the Polish girl situation... 

[farouk]

Well, anyway, the saying: "Marry in haste, repent at leisure" can be sanctified to the believer..........

[farouk]

On 11/9/2024 at 10:03 PM, LoveJoyHope-lady said:

I think @SIC is doing this well, just waiting on God and taking it all a day at a time.

We Christians are so quick to say: oh, look, a person - marriage???? 😍🤣

There needs to be a lot of heart-searching before the Lord.............

[SIC]

I went to the English church and she wasn't even there.. LOL

[SIC]

@LoveJoyHope-lady

Well she was there in church this time around. The church was packed with people. I managed to sit next to her during service. We talked for a bit before service. I told her I'm doing a PhD in Digital Economics.  She asked me what's it about. From her tone I got the impression that she was really interested in what it was about. But the service started just then. 

 After service I didn't want to immediately start talking to her again. I went around talking to other folks. She went around talking to other folks. And in the end I couldn't talk to her again. 

Man seriously.. It should be illegal for a girl to be that cute and that intelligent.. 

[ladypeartree]

DO NOT  try to talk to her again till you remove your foot from your mouth If one of my daughters had talked to such an arrogant person they would have been told NO in no uncertain terms 

 

 

Man seriously.. It should be illegal for a girl to be that cute and that intelligent.. 

 

Man seriously it should be illegal for a boy to be that arrogant   !!!!!!

[missmuffet]

2 hours ago, SIC said:

@LoveJoyHope-lady

Well she was there in church this time around. The church was packed with people. I managed to sit next to her during service. We talked for a bit before service. I told her I'm doing a PhD in Digital Economics.  She asked me what's it about. From her tone I got the impression that she was really interested in what it was about. But the service started just then. 

 After service I didn't want to immediately start talking to her again. I went around talking to other folks. She went around talking to other folks. And in the end I couldn't talk to her again. 

Man seriously.. It should be illegal for a girl to be that cute and that intelligent.. 

My mom always told me "Don't judge a book by the cover".

[LoveJoyHope-lady]

1 hour ago, ladypeartree said:

DO NOT  try to talk to her again till you remove your foot from your mouth If one of my daughters had talked to such an arrogant person they would have been told NO in no uncertain terms 

 

 

Man seriously.. It should be illegal for a girl to be that cute and that intelligent.. 

 

Man seriously it should be illegal for a boy to be that arrogant   !!!!!!

Whoa, whoa, whoa!!!! I did not get the impression that he was being arrogant. It's not a "literal" statement, but hyberbole... like, "She's so cute, it should be illegal (sarcasm)... and, on top of that, she's so intelligent - wow, I'm so impressed by both aspects."

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The younger generations always has new expressions, so let's not jump to conclusions. 😇

Edited December 15, 2024 by LoveJoyHope-lady