Feel Abolsutely Awful/Regretful

[Deepblue]

So I have been split from my girlfriend for over a month now, but it seems like I regret the decision more with each passing day. Maybe it wouldn't be so hard if I did not attend the same college as she. I want so badly to find her and try to make amends. I saw her today and I know she saw me from a distance, but she pretended that she did not see me. There is something in her eyes that looks like hurt, emptiness, or depression. I sure hope I was not the main culprit in bringing that about. If so, I feel even worse about it. I have been praying that I can get to speak to her again, and I have had some recent encounters with her mother who works at the college, but I haven't asked her how her daughter was doing. Ugh, it's really starting to pain me now. I felt light as a feather and so sure that I made the right decision when I split, but now I realize some of her great qualities that I did not fully appreciate before. So, this is really a prayer request more than anything else. A request to be able to move on if it is God's will, or a request to reunite with her if that is His will. I want to let go of this because it is starting to really hurt. At the same time, the fact that it hurts makes me think I may have made mistake.

[Guest]

Praying~!

[Guest man]

Go and talk to her. What's the worst that could happen? Maybe she feels the same way.

Don't let your foolish pride stand in the way of something that could lead to happiness.

[other one]

If you decided to split up with her there must have been a reason..... has that reason changed?

[georgedrw81]

Praying

[Deepblue]

Go and talk to her. What's the worst that could happen? Maybe she feels the same way.

Don't let your foolish pride stand in the way of something that could lead to happiness.

I actually Facebooked her a message telling her I would like to re-enter her life even if it means just being friends, and she just ignored it. I think it's her way of getting back at me. I might go speak to her if I see her in school again. At worse she'll ignore me.

[Deepblue]

If you decided to split up with her there must have been a reason..... has that reason changed?

It just seemed as if she was not as interested. She suddenly became busy all the time to do anything or see me. I took it as a hint that she wanted to move on, so I made the move and ended it. It's just as of late that I am regretting it-probably because I just started back at school which is where we did a lot of studying/spending time. If she is over me I don't see why she is still purposely ignoring me and acting upset? I don't know, maybe her facial expression is what made me feel bad. Girl looks sad or something.

[nebula]

Deep, I went back to look at the post where you spoke of the need to break off with her. From what I saw, and from my own experience, and from the experiences of people I knew and know, I would say that you need to put her on the altar.

I don't know her side of the story, but she may not want to "just be friends" because once you've been emotionally attached to someone, it doesn't just go away. It might be more hurtful trying to live within the boundaries of "just friends" when the emotions are still outside those boundaries. Separation will bring healing faster than becoming reattached on any level. (That is, if she lets go. If she doesn't let go, being "just friends" will cause even greater pain - by default.)

So, emotionally, you need to lay her on the altar. Ask the Lord on her behalf for whatever pain is going on in her life. If it is because of you, you still need to leave it on the altar. You cleared your conscious before the Lord with being in a relationship that was interfering with your walk with Him. Now, she needs to work this out between her and the Lord. Pray that her pain will cause her to run to the Lord and seek Him for healing and comfort and love.

That really is the best you can do.

OK?

[2Joyful]

Prayed

[Deepblue]

Deep, I went back to look at the post where you spoke of the need to break off with her. From what I saw, and from my own experience, and from the experiences of people I knew and know, I would say that you need to put her on the altar.

I don't know her side of the story, but she may not want to "just be friends" because once you've been emotionally attached to someone, it doesn't just go away. It might be more hurtful trying to live within the boundaries of "just friends" when the emotions are still outside those boundaries. Separation will bring healing faster than becoming reattached on any level. (That is, if she lets go. If she doesn't let go, being "just friends" will cause even greater pain - by default.)

So, emotionally, you need to lay her on the altar. Ask the Lord on her behalf for whatever pain is going on in her life. If it is because of you, you still need to leave it on the altar. You cleared your conscious before the Lord with being in a relationship that was interfering with your walk with Him. Now, she needs to work this out between her and the Lord. Pray that her pain will cause her to run to the Lord and seek Him for healing and comfort and love.

That really is the best you can do.

OK?

Yes, I agree with you Nebula. I have prayed and asked the Lord to comfort any pain I may have caused her. Maybe I am feeling more guilt than anything else right now. And of course, I am hoping I did not butcher something that could have been great. I feel like I want to apologize to her. But I don't know if taking any action at all is right at this moment. If the Lord allows us to cross paths somehow for a reason, I pray He will give me the words to say. If not, then that's o.k. too.